The Conjuring is the worse film ever. Don’t spend money on it. It’s actually so bad that it’s funny.
The Kid was sitting next to me and laughing the whole time. I was trying to focus on whatever was on the screen and stop thinking of his arm touching mine, or the fact how much I wanted to kiss him. I need to be a responsible adult.
He then said that he had been looking at me and thought I had been really ‘into to the film’. Shit, if I’d known that he had been watching me, I wouldn’t have watched the movie at all!
We grabbed a drink on our way back. He asked about my flat and why I had to move out so quickly. I told him about the divorce. He seemed fine about it (by the way, do men freak out if you tell them you’re divorced?). He then kissed me passionately, just the way I like it.
He put his arm around me when we were walking home and I felt really good about it. I actually wanted him to touch me all the time.
I’m going for a short holiday home for a bit on Sunday and he said he wanted to see me before I leave, so I’m seeing him in the morning, before my flight.
The whole thing overwhelms me a little. He’s exciting and I feel good with him. I don’t feel strange about the age difference. However, I’m afraid of what can happen later. I’m really scared that it will lead me into trouble.
I’m also trying to be cautious. He wants to see me all the time and that is weird. My experience with men and the things I’ve been hearing from other women are just about how they were used by men, how they manipulated them to go to bed with them, and how bad it made them feel. I know the Kid and I don’t have a future together. Hell! I don’t even want to have a future with any other man, but I don’t want to feel horrible when I realise that he just did all that because he wanted to sleep with me – and that was the only reason for him to spend time with me.
I’m seeing Number 6 today. I want to see how I feel. I can’t date two guys at the same time, so I need to choose and make a decision of what to do.
Life after divorce 
OMG, are you following me? Are we the same person?!
I saw The Conjuring with my 27 year old and spent the whole time wanting to make out with him. I am also a touch overwhelmed by my guy’s openness and wanting to talk to me all the time. (He says he’s holding back too!) I do wonder if it’s a little bit of an age thing. And by the way, the night I met my guy I told him I was STILL LIVING with my ex and he seemed fine with it. Amazingly, I got an offer on my condo the very next day.
Anyway… Let’s both do our best to not overthink and just have fun. I also very much doubt there’s a future with my 27 year old, but who cares?! I certainly don’t want to get married again anytime soon — if ever — so whatever. Looking forward to seeing what happens with your story and mine!
I know! I read your blog post today and thought exactly the same! Something’s working its wonders here.
I think you’re probably more laid back than me about the whole thing. I overthink and can’t let my worries go. Maybe it’s because I have never been in a casual relationship and not sure how the whole thing works. What should I expect? What should I do? Can I meet other people? I don’t even know what I’m feeling towards this guy. I know I like him, but there’s also something else…
I will definitely follow your blog! Let’s see if our lives will go in the same direction.
I wonder…maybe….could be a possibility…that he wants to spend time with you because he likes you? hmm…..no. He must be out for some sort of evil purpose!
PS…he might be thinking, “gosh this woman is cute, and interesting. I like kissing her. She’s probably just interested in a roll in the hay with a younger man. She’s probably just on the rebound from her divorce. I’d like to have sex with her, but I don’t want to just have cold meaningless sex. I’d like some sort of connection. how do I know she isn’t just using me to get over her ex?”
You are a silly billy @divorcedandsingle!! xx
PS the conjuring wasn’t THAT bad! I gave it a 5 out of 10?
Yes, maybe he thinks that. I get too paranoid about the whole think. Why can’t I just losen up and enjoy it?
P.S. the film was bad. the acting was terrible, the music even worse. 2 out of 10! 🙂
If you’re looking for something casual, then let it be casual. Who cares if he just wants to have sex? If you aren’t looking for a long-term relationship, what else is there?
that’s the thing – what else is there. I’m afraid he just wants to have sex, because I don’t want to go all mellow and have butterflies in my stomach and let him know that I like him and then look like a fucking fool when he disappears from my life after sex. But I also don’t want a relationship. So, how do I balance those two. How do I keep it causual, but not too casual and not too relationship-ish? The whole thing confuses me.
If the sex is good, he won’t disappear. And telling him that you like him doesn’t imply a relationship. All it implies is that you only date/ sleep with men you like. Seems like a good standard.
You have a point there, I guess. I try not to show my feelings though. I saw him yesterday and went on kissing him and hugging and then I was beating myself up for it because I thought I’d showed too much emotions and he would probably think I was being needy. I know I overthink all of this and I probably should stop reading shit on some dating advice website.
Yes, you should stop reading the pointless advice on those “dating” sites. They’re all about playing games. Guys don’t like that. They’re not enjoyable for us, either. If you really want to be different from other women, just have the conversation up front and skip all of the guessing games.